Who would study psychology unless they had some issues?!-Chapter 184 - 182: The Consultation Can End Now, But I Want to Do a Bit More

Chapter 184: Chapter 182: The Consultation Can End Now, But I Want to Do a Bit More

Zhuang Junzhe looked at Nan Zhubin, his eyes filled with curiosity: "Why is that?"

It’s because the consultant has made an impact.

Nan Zhubin smiled and began analyzing for the visitor:

"Firstly, when you think about these ’reasonable beliefs’ yourself, you’re arguing against yourself. But your fundamental stance is ’unreasonable belief,’ which means all ’reasonable beliefs’ are enemies, and you naturally wouldn’t want to accept them."

Zhuang Junzhe immediately understood: "But just now, teacher, you were the ’unreasonable belief,’ pulling me to the opposing stance from the start, so this time I naturally accepted the ’reasonable beliefs.’"

Nan Zhubin nodded, showing an expression that a student can be taught.

"The second point is very similar to a question you asked before. The ’reasonable beliefs’ just spoken were used to refute others, rather than just fleetingly passing through the mind, which makes them relatively more ’objectified’ and prompts your reflection."

"Of course, this can be further enhanced to make it more ’objective,’ and that is—"

"Write it down."

The student-client was already adept at this and had picked up the pen.

Scribble, scribble, scribble—

This time, the content of the ’reasonable beliefs’ was quite extensive, and Zhuang Junzhe took a considerable amount of time.

After writing down all the content of the debate with Nan Zhubin, Zhuang Junzhe revisited these listed items.

Once again, he showed an expression of sudden realization.

"What you wrote just now is called the ’Reasonable Beliefs List,’" Nan Zhubin said, "which counts as separate from ’debating with unreasonable beliefs,’ and belongs to the method of [Rational Emotive Therapy]."

"Master this method and the basic theory of [Reasonable Belief Therapy], and even when you are alone, you will be able to handle your unreasonable beliefs without needing to seek out a consultant."

Every psychological consultation should be treated as the last one, ensuring that the visitor gains something; especially with limited free consultation resources at the school, the same student might not get an appointment next week, so Nan Zhubin paid extra attention to imparting methodology.

The visitor nodded repeatedly, feeling as if he had gained a treasure.

...

Having learned how to replace unreasonable beliefs with reasonable ones, Nan Zhubin was ready to advance the consultation to the second step—after mastering the new method, supervising the visitor’s correct usage.

"As I said before, you described two incidents in recent events that triggered your negative emotions: one was for learning [Rational Emotive Therapy], and the other for practice."

Nan Zhubin looked at the wall clock: "We still have plenty of time, so I’ll provide appropriate supervision and guidance next, and you can try to carry out a [Rational Emotive Treatment] on your own."

The student-client nodded, with a look of eager anticipation.

Nan Zhubin watched him with a smile.

As expected, the eager anticipation soon faded at a visible speed, replaced by a furrowed brow and a hesitant pen.

Unreasonable beliefs necessarily trigger negative emotions, and re-experiencing negative emotions is a counter-instinctive behavior that is bound to cause subjective discomfort.

Subsequently, [defense] will emerge.

Just as in the previous [Rational Emotive Treatment] hosted by Nan Zhubin, when Zhuang Junzhe described his emotions, he replaced "inferiority" with "troubled."

Fortunately, most of human [defense] is directed outward, and self-deception is indeed rare.

Nan Zhubin looked at Zhuang Junzhe’s paper from his angle and saw written—

[A: A girl actively approached me and then actively left later.]

[C: Sadness, frustration, inferiority.]

The visitor struggled particularly while writing down the content of [C], with repeated hesitation of the pen tip.

But the moment the pen hits the paper, it’s a success.

What followed was the part on unreasonable beliefs.

[B: After she actively approached me, she discovered my lack of cognition due to family differences, recognized my ’abilities,’ and then actively left me.]

This then formed a logical chain of [A+B=C].

It was also at this point that the visitor sighed.

However, he quickly adjusted his mood and proceeded to densely list items under [B].

[She left me not due to ’cognitive gaps’ and ’lack of ability,’ but rather other traits I displayed under this internal stress.]

[Without interference from family background, we weren’t compatible in terms of personality and values either.]

[There are other junior students expressing a liking for me, who are more suitable for me...]

Diverse and varied, among them some ’reasonable beliefs’ that were somewhat absurd.

But... overall, the visitor had grasped this therapeutic method.

And simultaneously able to autonomously apply it to real life.

The consultation was successful.

.....

A consultation session is very short, and it is challenging for a university student to schedule a free psychological consultation at school.

This visitor came with a desire for knowledge and exploration, so Nan Zhubin’s consultation this time focused on imparting methodology, guiding the visitor’s thinking, and teaching him how to adjust himself when facing similar issues in the future.

Not much time was spent on soothing emotions.

This was a trade-off by the consultant according to the visitor’s problem type and the visitor’s own characteristics, to help the visitor as much as possible within the limited consultation time.

Theoretically, the consultation could end now.

But at this moment, Nan Zhubin looked at the wall clock.

[Thirty-nine minutes, almost nearing the end.]

[But if necessary, it can still be extended to the maximum of sixty minutes.]

Nan Zhubin recalled what the visitor had just said and remembered the experience the visitor had just described.

He looked at the visitor who was now contemplating and practicing in front of the paper filled with [ABC Theory].

He couldn’t help but speak: "The question you just asked—"

Silence was broken, and Zhuang Junzhe subconsciously looked up, eyes puzzled, at Nan Zhubin.

"About why those [reasonable beliefs] once appeared in your mind but did not stay or replace [unreasonable beliefs] and instead vanished quickly," Nan Zhubin emphasized, "The two answers I just gave you are rather textbook ’universal answers.’"

"But I have a third answer here, a ’personal answer’ I’ve derived specifically for you after our conversation."

Having just acquired a novel method and the ability to resolve independently, the visitor’s mood was particularly relaxed at this time.

His trust in Nan Zhubin also reached the peak of this consultation.

So he immediately accepted Nan Zhubin’s approach, then prompted a new curiosity.

"What is it, teacher?"

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